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3 Layers to Sacred Union Sovereignty

If you’ve done SO MUCH deep personal work and yet a healthy, happy, holy, romantic relationship still feels like such a struggle – there is a reason I see in my coaching practice over and over: You’ve focused your healing on one layer such as personal healing but there are 3 layers that need to be addressed to be able to access the realm of sovereign love: social/cultural, familial and personal.

I see wise women who have done a LOT of work in one area (such as personal, for example) but have not yet consciously claimed sovereignty on all 3 levels.

Consider this example…

If your family of origin modeled that disrespect towards the feminine from the masculine was Ok and disrespect form the masculine toward the feminine was OK, you will honestly BELIEVE it’s Ok, until you become aware of and change the incredibly destructive narrative.

You may have healed the WOUNDS from this narrative, but you may have not yet done the work of dismantling the actual narrative that these wounds originated from because this often sneaks around in our deep subconscious.

And it doesn’t help that such disrespect is also constantly pushed by the mainstream social and cultural narrative – so you must disown it on multiple levels; cultural, familial and individual. This is the SOCIAL layer that must also be addressed for sovereign love to have a place to land in your life.

You may have already healed the PERSONAL layers of this wounding and distortion as in you worked through the hurt and loss that may have occurred for you on a PERSONAL level and have now healed from it.

And that’s SO great because there are for sure therapists that can help with that part.

But the realm of coaching, at least the coaching I do and I see many of my good colleagues do, goes BEYOND the personal into the family of origin (also sometimes addressed in therapy) and the collective.

I have never had the collective addressed in therapy.

And for spiritual, conscious women who want to create sovereign love, addressing all three levels is paramount.

Until you DO this, you will not only BELIEVE that disrespect towards the masculine is Ok, normal, same old, a part of your accepted “reality,” you will not only accept it, sometimes blindly from society, from your partners and from the men in your life but you will also feel JUSTIFIED in DISHING it out.

That’s right. You will be part of the problem.

Oooh and that’s a BIG problem when you feel that your disrespect is JUSTIFIED.

I am saying this here because I see it at the core of almost every client I coach – family of origin and societal relationship practices persist as TRAUMA, until re-created.

The reason they persist as trauma is because you’re a holy, divine being and for a sacred union to manifest, you require AND want to offer holy, divine devotion.

But no one likely showed you this here on Earth. Not on TV! Maybe just on Outlander LOL.

Because you were treated with constant disrespect and likely division from your spiritual essence in our society and often in your family of origin.

Women come to me wanting a sacred union.

That’s a holy desire. And the blueprint is within women and men, organically, by DIVINE DESIGN of how to have a holy union.

For a successful divine union/ holy matrimony, you must heal the unholy on an individual, familial and cultural level.

I know. Sometimes I write about dating and did you know I was a spiritual healer, too? 🙂

So many women tell me they have no healthy girlfriends to talk to about their relationship problems because the minute they bring up that they are having issues with their man, their girlfriends simply attack the men. That doesn’t help and more soberingly, it doesn’t WORK.

Part of healing and creating our own creation within our own lives such as attracting true love, sustaining a healthy marriage, having healthy finances, maintaining healthy relationships and bodies requires so much UNlearning.

It requires Social, Religious, familial and even scholastic UNlearning.

UNlearning is UNcomfortable.

But I got you!!! That’s why I write these posts all the time, LOL.

What cultural, social, familial or individual narratives have you overcome in order to create healthy relationships?

Or, what are the narratives that you know you need to overcome (or you know someone that does wink wink).

I’d love to hear from you, so comment below!!

And as always, if you know you need help in this area, that’s EXACTLY what I offer in my monthly at-your-pace coaching packages or in my 90 day life-changing, 1-1 private intensives.

Just send a DM if interested and I will respond back with a few questions to see if we’re a fit to work together, and if so, we can get started right away.

Akso if you’d like help DATING from this point of view then doors to my Everything Dating program starting March 21st at 10 AM PST. It’s open to 8 women, it’s taught LIVE by me and all calls are recorded. It goes for 8 weeks and includes me helping you set up your online dating profile, dating in person, and what to say, wear and do on text, phone calls and dates and so much more!

Send a DM if you want in!

Love, Emilia

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