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HSPs in Love: Attachment Myths & Meeting Healthy Men

You don’t have fearful/anxious/dismissive/avoidant attachment disorder IF you’re a highly sensitive person and you’ve been trying to attach to UNhealthy men …….

BECAUSE that would make ANYONE uncomfortable/anxious/dismissive/avoidant.

Let’s just review attachment styles from https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/quiz

Anxious Preoccupied: Fear of abandonment

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Relationships can often make you feel anxious, unsafe or insecure because you likely have a subconscious fear of abandonment.

As a result, you seek more closeness in your relationships, and can feel afraid if you sense a loved one is pulling away.

Understanding Attachment Styles: From Dismissive to Secure

Dismissive Avoidant: Pulls away

Intense emotions can feel overwhelming and can cause you to pull away from others. You may find yourself withdrawing from arguments or triggering situations.

This need for independence can cause challenges in your relationships and inner conflict for you, because deep down, you want to connect with others.

Fearful Avoidant: Both anxious and avoidant

Relationships can feel chaotic, confusing and overwhelming because you swing between being avoidant and anxious.

Depending on the relationship, you can shift between being “hot and cold,” often feeling confused about your feelings.

Secure Attached

You often feel comfortable and at ease in relationships. You’re also good at communicating your needs and feelings, and feel open to vulnerability in your relationships.

However, sometimes you can experience difficulty when relating to those who aren’t as secure in relationships.

Let’s review the traits of a HSP from https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test

I am easily overwhelmed by strong sensory input.

I seem to be aware of subtleties in my environment.

Other people’s moods affect me.

I tend to be very sensitive to pain.

I find myself needing to withdraw during busy days,into bed or into a darkened room or any place where I can have some privacy and relief from stimulation.

I am particularly sensitive to the effects of caffeine.

I am easily overwhelmed by things like bright lights, strong smells,coarse fabrics,or sirens close by.

I have a rich,complex inner life.

I am made uncomfortable by loud noises.

I am deeply moved by the arts or music.

My nervous system sometimes feels so frazzled that I just have to go off by myself.

I am conscientious.

I startle easily.

I get rattled when I have a lot to do in a short amount of time.

When people are uncomfortable in a physical environment I tend to know what needs to be done to make it more comfortable (like changing the lighting or the seating).

I am annoyed when people try to get me to do too many things at once.

I try hard to avoid making mistakes or forgetting things.

I make a point to avoid violent movies and TV shows.

I become unpleasantly aroused when a lot is going on around me.

Being very hungry creates a strong reaction in me, disrupting my concentration or mood.

Changes in my life shake me up.

I notice and enjoy delicate or fine scents, tastes, sounds, works of art.

I find it unpleasant to have a lot going on at once.

I make it a high priority to arrange my life to avoid upsetting or overwhelming situations.

I am bothered by intense stimuli, like loud noises or chaotic scenes.

When I must compete or be observed while performing a task, I become so nervous or shaky that I do much worse than I would otherwise.

When I was a child, my parents or teachers seemed to see me as sensitive or shy.

Traits of a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP): More Than Just Sensitivity

If you answered more than fourteen of the questions as true of yourself, you are probably highly sensitive. But no psychological test is so accurate that an individual should base his or her life on it. We psychologists try to develop good questions, then decide on the cut off based on the average response.

Navigating Relationships: How Healthy Masculine Energy Benefits HSPs

So if you’re meeting UNhealthy men because you DO NOT know how to sort for healthy masculine energy, then your HSP nature will be on ALERT ALL DAY LONG.

EVERY DAY.

The solution first and foremost is learning about healthy men and what they talk, walk and FEELl like

You’d be surprised how much LESS anxious, fearful and dismissive you will feel when this part is in place.

And…..

You’d be surprised how much LESS the attachment style problems show up when you have a healthy masculine man with integrity, healthy communication and consistent follow-through.

And YES! you can learn HOW to PICK the RIGHT GUY here FREE:

www.emilianagy.com/rightguy

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