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How to attract a high value men with traits online so you can pick your fave, part 3

Again I want to remind you that this is the EXACT step by step process my clients use every week to meet amazing, conscious, masculine men. Men they go exclusive with, get engaged to and marry. It’s also how I met my amazing husband.

The Power of Sorting: Quantity Over Quality in Initial Interactions

SECRET 3: QUANTITY not QUALITY (yet)

You have a qualified response with a profile photo such as: “Hello my name is Mark and I live in Buena Vista. I am 36 years old and I work downtown at a nurse staffing company. I like to go mountain biking. Tell me more about you.”

GREAT!

(RESPOND to any and all messages unless it’s a dick pic, a random message that makes no sense or something else that is weird…if it’s just something like hi are you there, respond, yes hi 😊. Remember, he’s just pinging you to see if you’re alive. Answer the man.)

You respond; “Hi Mark, thank you for your message. I like to chillax at the beach and read. I look forward to reading from you. Ana .”

Don’t forget the smiley face. It’s inviting.

This doesn’t mean you like him.

This doesn’t mean he’s your type or that you will have babies.

This just means you are SORTING.

He responds or he does not respond.

Always respond with FEWER words than he did.

No this isn’t an arbitrary rule or game I made up to torture you.

But it’s SO important because so many women start CONNECTING in the messages and write tomes or perform a job interview over messenger when what they really should be doing is SORTING.

Then they cry that they wasted two months (and sometimes two years!!!) texting or messaging and he went back to his X or ghosted completely.

Remember, it’s an introduction.

NOT a relationship.

NOT a pen-pal.

NOT a friend.

It’s an introduction. It’s an introduction. It’s an introduction.

It’s an___________________. Good. You got this.

Remember to sandwich in appreciation and an opening for an invitation. There is no reason not to invite a date request from this man. He will soon screen himself out if he is not a fit.

Navigating Message Exchanges: Why Less Is More in Online Dating

So the exchange should look something like this:

Message Exchange 1:

HIM: “Hello my name is Mark and I live in Buena Vista. I am 36 years old and I work downtown at a nurse staffing company. I like to go mountain biking. Tell me more about you.”

YOU: “Hi Mark, thank you for your message. I like to chillax at the beach and read. I look forward to reading from you. Ana 🙂 .”

Message Exchange 2:

HIM: “Hi Ana, what a crazy rainy day. How are you doing in this weather?

YOU: “Hi Mark, thank you for your message. I love the rain and after work I curled up with my cat and a book. How about you? 🙂 .”

Message Exchange 3:

HIM: “Oh nice, I love books but not really a cat person. I have a dog. ”

YOU: “Hi Mark, nice to read from you. I see we have some things in common (now go look at his profile for something that you relate to or can remember, lol) I see you like to fish and I love to eat fish! I look forward to speaking with you, Ana 126 254 2647 🙂 .”

Now at this stage if this man is NOT sincere, he most likely won’t call.

And if he does call but isn’t sincere, he won’t ask you out if you practice the 5 – 10 min phone call. More on this next post.

That’s why it’s so important to practice the short phone call. I will talk more about this in the next post but it’s like this: To a healthy masculine man the short phone call is an opportunity for him to ask you out. To an unhealthy masculine man, he won’t ask you out.
NEXT!

The Art of the Short Call: Screening for Sincerity and Interest in Men

Many women ask me, what if he texts but doesn’t call? Have no fear Emilia is here and I have the magic text to send back. If he’s a healthy masculine man, he will call you if you send that text.

See graphic attached!

There are 6 more secrets for a total of 9 and I will be posting one a day over the next weeks.

And if you’re single and you want my expert help meeting your match, then I invite you to consider joining my Soulmate Attraction Formula 10 Week Group Program starting on March 30th at 10 am PST on zoom. You get 5 group and 5 private calls with me.

This is a LIVE group program I am offering starting March 30th to 10 women who want to learn how to date in a way that nurturing, fun and easy while at the same time selecting effortlessly for high quality masculine men who are ready for a committed relationship.

My clients meet their dream match in 3-6 months at a rate of 1-2 dates a week, using this EXACT strategy but often within the first 5-10 introductions.

This program has a deep healing or component to help you resolve any past wounds and unhealthy behaviors so that you can create a healthy relationship.

This is a practical ON the ground coaching and mentorship program that gives you proven tools on how to date using the least amount of energy but getting the most results; results being enjoyable, easy dates with high quality masculine men.

If you’re interested in this program, just send me a DM and we will have a quick chat over messenger to make sure it’s a fit and if so, we can get started right away.

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