If your man asks you to pay on a date, then he’s not in his healthy masculine energy.
He’s telling you that he’s not ready to be a provider.
And that’s OK! Next!
Women say, so what I got my own bag.
I don’t need a provider.
I just want love.
Yes, girl try that on when you’re 1 week postpartum, your newborn is screaming for your boob around the clock and your man wants your 50% of the rent bill that month.
NO NO NO NEVER.
Don’t do it.
Don’t date a 50/50 man.
Date a provider.
A man who cherishes the feminine as the portal to the Divine that she is.
And if you want to know how to attract those, send me a DM and ask me about it, I teach that in my 90- day 1-1 intensive where you date, heal and partner for divine union.
A man who has his masculinity intact is capable of creating the 3D resources he needs and he’s gladly willing to share them with his feminine partner.
When my husband and I met, he was making $15 an hour, and I owned a home in San Diego. My biz was at 6 figures.
But he still never let me pay a single bill and never let me feel like I should.
And I never looked down on him because at that time he made less money than me.
I looked beyond his circumstances at the time to his character and his qualities and just a couple of years later, his own company was making 6 figures.
I am telling you this because I know you’re an emphatic heart. You’re a sensitive high-achieving conscientious soul who will give and give because it’s your nature to be generous, love and care for others.
You are going to give SO MUCH to your partnership. If you don’t implement “no 50/50 from the start,” you will over-give, and start feeling drained and resentful. And that’s not divine union.
That’s why making sure a man is proud to take care of you is the most basic of requirement I ask you to implement in your dating journey. If you don’t know how, it’s Ok, I teach you.
It goes so deep for many of my clients when they are learning how to truly receive.
They squirm and try to get out of it because it puts them in a vulnerable place. They don’t want to owe him anything and they don’t want to feel like they’re not contributing.
But this is NOT healthy and will never create divine union.
AND these things coming up is good because that’s what initiates the healing needed to prosper in love.
The feeling not worthy of love, the ingestion of false narratives about men, relationships and what’s really required to make a partnership fulfilling.
We can heal ALL of this so that the divine blueprint for feminine masculine union emerges and you are able to melt into it with ease and relief.
Divine union is balanced and in equilibrium where both partners are giving and receiving but the giving must be allowed to originate with the masculine and be returned with the feminine.
I used the word “allowed,” specifically because women don’t allow it!!!! And that’s what leads to disaster in relationships.
That’s because if a man gives you sperm, you will create a child.
If he gives you the qualities of a healthy masculine man, you will help him turn it into a multi million dollar empire.
Because you have a physical and energetic womb.
Because your spiritual presence is to incubate, nurture, birth and create.
A healthy masculine energy man UNDERSTANDS that and he will do ANYRTHING for your feminine to thrive.
Let your feminine presence be enough and stop worrying about earning, deserving and equating.
You likely won’t be able to do that easily and that’s Ok. It’s because of the cultural and social brainwashing that INTENTIONALLY obscures the blueprint for divine union.
But not to worry, you can reclaim that blueprint and we do that in my 3 month intensive.
Reclaim it by receiving with gracious acknowledgment and bountiful appreciation.
I see you, the way they see in Avatar, and I know this is what you need.
I have tested this over and over and over in my own life when I was dating and it has always proven to be true in the lives of my clients.
There is no love story that started in 50/50 and blossomed into divine union. None.
So don’t do 50/50. Select a man who wants to provide so you can receive.