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Men frustrate the F out of you and your best efforts at conscious love

When men frustrate the F out of you and your best efforts at conscious love lead to crying to your bff and pulling your hair out, it’s NOT you.


It’s a collective BLIND SPOT – the dis-empowered feminine when it comes to women’s relationships with men.

So many of us have done a fuZK ton of things when it comes to personal growth. We’ve shifted our money mindset, we’ve done shadow work, we’ve balanced masculine and feminine. We’ve implemented ruthless laser focus and discipline, radical self acceptance, spiritual healing and rituals.

But still we encounter major suckage in our quest for true love. Why?

BECAUSE the dis-empowereed feminine is an archetype. It exists in a paradigm that is much larger than our individual selves.

Here is an excellent article about what that is and the source for 1-3 on this list as well as some other parts.

  1. The dis-empowered feminine holds the frozen energy of generations of women silenced, banished or destroyed for daring to own their power, wisdom and light.
  1. She holds the cultural and institutional limits that forbid women from holding property or positions of authority.
  2. She holds the trauma of “the burning times” when as many as a million women were tortured and burned at the stake for being healers or wise women. 
  3. But what many women forget (and I found was missing from this article) is that she ALSO holds the collective and subconscious blueprint of:
  • generations of women not having partnership with men
  • feeling that they can’t really trust men
  • feeling like they are not, at a ground level safe with men
  • feeling that they are not as important or as powerful as men
  • watching men enjoy freedoms and privileges they were not entitled to due to the cultural and social paradigms they lived in
  • feeling betrayed and undervalued by men and
  • feeling that the only thing they were valued for is their sexuality and child rearing
  • feeling that they couldn’t occupy their full power in their relationships with men
  • feeling like their full power would be subjugated, ignored and diminished
  • feeling that their contribution to a marriage wasn’t valued
  • feeling that opportunities and possibilities are withed from them solely due to being female
  • feeling that their place was at home with the children and that’s all they were ever allowed to be or go
  • feeling that being a man was placed above being a woman and continuing to their role and contribution to society continuing to be undervalued and under acknowledged
  • feeling that there was no hope for anything else
  • what would you add in the comments?

You’ve manifested incredible healing and results in your life because you’ve transformed the first 3 areas of the dis-empowered feminine’s domain.

But you have not yet been able to access the overlay of subconscious patterns through which you see men as inherently untrustworthy and unsafe that are part of the last aspect of the dis-empowered feminine described above.

This shows up in dating like attracting drama, men that don’t choose you, men that disappoint you, playing games, getting constantly triggered, subconsciously trying to use your body and sexuality to attract a man (rather than your sacred feminine heart and authentic self), being secretly afraid of men, automatically jumping to conclusions that assume the worst about men, feeling afraid to communicate honestly and directly (not trusting men), basically treating men like the enemy so you feel the need to play games to avoid disaster which inevitably leads to disaster.

Whatever the dis-empowered feminine matrix in relationships with men is for you individually, (such as; having to sacrifice your own life to make your marriage work or to raise children, having to compromise on your desires, having to settle for someone you didn’t really want because that’s what was “the safe choice,” fearing that you have to give away your power if you want true love, fearing that your voice must be silenced for love to work), unaddressed and unhealed, it will lead to constant drama with men.

You’re not flawed for encountering so much difficulty in the realm of relationships with men.

Incredible, brilliant women who are powerful spiritual healers and struggle with this. This struggle isn’t your personal failing.

It’s part of a much bigger pattern extends back in time for centuries.

Your maternal ancestors couldn’t heal this because they didn’t have what we have, they didn’t live in THIS time, they didn’t have the internet, they didn’t have all these modalities, they didn’t have this understanding they didn’t have EACH OTHER.

But they are lovingly cheering you on because you, yes YOU can have a sacred union marriage if you decide to, where they couldn’t.

We are their answered prayers.

Even as women have more options and freedoms available to us than ever before, many of us find as we step into our fullness, we are called to heal collective stuck and frozen places on behalf of womankind.

One of these places is in relationships with men (yes, like half of the people on the planet, lol).

I am here to bring healing, wholeness and peace to the relationships between men and women. I am here to activate sacred union for New Earth.

Those of us on a conscious journey of healing do so for ourselves AND the collective. Those of us healing the dis-empowered feminine as she relates to men are anchoring in the codes for sacred union on Earth – which is the divine masculine and divine feminine union in a real human, physical relationship. That’s why I always say Sacred Partnership is a rebellions act.

This deep healing is our sacred service to humanity and it is what will ultimately bring peace and healing to our world.

And this is the healing and we do in my 90 day 1-1 intensive. It’s also combined with practical dating strategies back-engineered from sacred partnership and understanding men, the sacred masculine and the sacred feminine, so you can attract (and KEEP) sacred union love within 3-6 months.

If this is something you want in the realm of love and relationships with men then I invite you to send me a DM and ask about my 90 day, 1-1 intensive. I will respond with a few questions and we will have a quick chat over messenger to see if it’s a fit and if so, we can get started within a few days.

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