Women ask me all the time what questions to ask a man on the first date. My answer is NONE.
Use your FEELINGS instead to SENSE into his energy and LET him GENERATE the questions.
That’s because questions are intellect first. You will end up with a man that IMPRESSES you at best, but not men that CHERISH you.
You may connect intellectually and that might initially turn you on but this connection won’t be sustainable long term because it’s only in the MIND and not in the ENERGY flow.
For long-term fulfilling love, we need deep, embodied masculine/feminine energy FLOW.
Our soft vulnerable feminine side – that we educated ambitious intellectuals keep so tightly buttoned – will secretly long for a man that’s got our back.
We will long for a man that meets us, a man that makes us feel safe and like we’re not alone in the world.
That polarity, that flow of energy between masculine and feminine will nourish your partnership for years to come.
It will be a safe space for both of you BOTH to return to, to feel loved, replenished and whole.
Both partners are nourished by this for life. I call it the fountain of forever.
This is what I mean by sacred partnership, sacred marriage.
And you can’t discern if that’s there using your INTELLECT.
You must date with your feminine softness first, FEELING into the energy dynamic you and this man create TOGETHER.
If you understand this ONE thing (how to select your man with your feminine FEELINGS and not your masculine INTELLECT) and actually apply it, you will have done the absolute MOSTEST when it comes to selecting the right long-term partner for you.
Meaning, show up in your feminine energy (take a bath, dance naked, read a book or whatever you need to do to get there, after your workday) and date with this inquiry, “do I have delicious-feeling energy FLOW with this man?”
Don’t focus on what questions to ask. Focus on being PRESENT and FEELING into the energy flow between you two.
Of course if he asks you questions, you can answer freely, honestly and authentically and at the end of your answer, add, “what about you?”
You’re responding and reciprocating. But this is not the same as you GENERATING the questions. This is the energy flow you want to practice and create for healthy, nourishing, HOTT lifelong love.
That’s because when you generate the questions, you’re generating the energy AND you’re using your mental capacity to do so.
This is NOT going to give you the information you need because how you FEEL in this man’s presence is MUCH more important and THAT is what I want you to focus on.
So if you allow HIM to ask the questions and generate the energy flow you don’t have to THINK so much and you can focus on breathing, listening to learn about him and grounding in YOUR BODY where your feelings live.
Do you SEE it?
Also…..It’s HOW some women ARE about it (interrogating, dueling) that turns healthy masculine men off and causes you to attract the wrong men again and again.
If you initiate a joust or interview, it will be incredibly unattractive to a healthy masculine man.
He won’t sense what he needs most, which is your vulnerable, feminine energy.
Not only is this approach of interrogating and jousting a complete turnoff to healthy masculine men, but it also leaves you as a woman, disconnected from your core feminine self and unable to allow yourself to FEEL into a masculine/feminine dynamic with your body and emotions.
And all of this will just lead to more suckage because:
The only kind of man that would submit himself to such a dynamic is actually the kind of man that isn’t empowered in his masculinity and will never show up for you anyway.
And that’s the best-case scenario.
The worst-case scenario is that you will end up attracting a narcissist who will charm you but will meet his own needs at your expense without remorse.
The man who “wins” may “get the job,” but we don’t respect him or trust him. We don’t admire him, we’re constantly testing him. We don’t feel safe with him, we can’t relax and the feminine in us can’t surrender.
Our success outside of our relationship won’t have given us the tools and skills to make this relationship work and we’re literally on our way to relationship hell.
That’s because we didn’t choose him with our feminine, we chose him with our masculine. The dynamic that was created on the first date – the duel and the “show me what you got” energy – will continue through the relationship. And we’ll never be truly happy.
There won’t be peace and polarity flow that nourishes us.
So that’s why in my 90 day 1-1 intensive I teach you how to feel safe showing up in your feminine with healthy boundaries, how to nourish your feminine energy and how to date IN your body, FEELING for this fountain of forever.
So even if he is not YOUR masculine man, you will feel nourished and enjoy your date because there will be energy flow due to POLARITY.
Isn’t that so much more fun than dueling or interrogating, LOL?
Yes, it’s so much better and so much easier, and for most women, such a huge RELIEF.
If you want help with this, I invite you to send me a DM and ask about my 90 day 1-1 intensive where,we work on powerful partnering skills founded in my teachings of polarity.
This allows you to create a healthy, HOT sacred partnership with an incredible man who loves you and shows up for you, no matter your status or success.
My clients meet their match in an average of 3 months or about 5-10 dates at a rate of 1-2 dates a week. And they get engaged within apx 12 months. That means if you’re wishing for REAL love, you can DO it with my help in about 3 months!