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Why You Can’t CONNECT with a Man for love that Makes Your Soul Sing & Your Body Purr

Why you just can’t seem to really CONNECT with a man in a way that makes your soul sing and your body purr….

You intellectually know there’s got to be a man out there you’d enjoy being with but you just haven’t EXPERIENCED a deep connection that makes you actually genuinely DESIRE to be in a relationship with almost any man you’ve ever met….

Let me give you this: There are men out there with energy you can connect with, that’s invigorating and purposeful, instead of ambiguous and soul-crushingly boring.

These are healthy masculine men who have an authentic masculine CORE polarity essence and who are ready for union with a feminine core being like you.

But you’ll never create that spark if you don’t KNOW you’re a CORE feminine essence being and if you walk around in life – and especially date – as if you aren’t one.

But Emilia…..aren’t we all just a blend of masculine and feminine energy? I did so much work to heal my dis-empowered dark feminine and masculine. Isn’t that what I was supposed to do?

Yes, absoFNlutely, healthy women (and men and ALL humans) are a blend of both feminine and masculine energy. And…..

Yes, absoFNlutely, healing the disowned and dis-empowered (shadow) aspects of ourselves whether they be feminine or masculine is a BOSS ASS healing move.

But no, we are not all JUST a blend of the two, even though that’s what a lot of relationship coaches are now teaching. Nope.

You need to align with your authentic CORE polarity and attract your CORE complement.

That’s when you ignite the fire of forever.

Anything else is just boring. Drab, Dreary and Dull, LOL. Lifeless. Pointless.

Most of us have a primary authentic CORE polarity; either feminine or masculine. Yep.

Very few souls come into a body as a perfect blend of both. These kinds of souls are the exception and not the norm.


But mainstream will have you believing that the exception is the norm and that we can switch genders (and therefore polarities) willy nilly. This is not spiritually or scientifically accurate.

We CAN switch genders and we CAN switch polarities, but at what COST???

Just because we CAN, doesn’t mean it’s healthy or good or enlivening or life-affirming for us to do so.

Women who are CORE feminine (most biological women) become exhausted emotionally, mentally and physically when operating in their masculine energy/polarity.

Men who are CORE masculine (most biological men) become frustrated, feel thwarted and incapacitated when forced to operate in their feminine energy/polarity.

You may have healed your wounded feminine and masculine energies. YAY!!!!

And you may have balanced and harmonized your healthy feminine and masculine energy. YAY!!!

But if you’re not aligned with your CORE energy essence and sourcing your LOVE life from that core essence, you will continue to miss connecting and igniting that spark with men.

In my experience this authentic CORE polarity concept applies to ALL relationships (not just hetero normative ones) but in this post I am speaking to feminine people who want to create a connected relationship on every level with masculine people.

So no, balancing YOUR own feminine and masculine energy IS NOT actually sufficient for a healthy and sustainable deeply CONNECTED romantic partnership, Sorry.

But it IS a FANTASTIC start!

And yes balancing your feminine and masculine energies IS sufficient to bring you all the goodies as a single person – such as peace, balance and success in many other areas of your life such as your business and platonic relationships.

Once you balance your feminine and masculine energies, many feminine leaders experience success in their sacred work, opportunities opening up for them and life just flowing more.

But you need to take this “balancing” a step further when it comes to divine union in human bodies.

You actually need to go beyond balancing masculine and feminine within – which is super important in becoming a healthy human – to ALIGNING with your CORE polarity AS WELL.

It might almost feel like UNbalancing now that you just got things balanced again lol.

It might feel woozy and vulnerable and scary.

And that’s why so many powerful feminine leaders fight me SO hard on this.

The last time they did a version of balancing, it was with an unhealthy or destructive or abusive man man that suffocated their soul so they understand balancing to be unhealthy and like depending.

They’ve sworn they will never be hurt like that again.

But it’s not depending or co-depending, it’s synergizing.

We have NO problem allowing a person good with numbers to do our accounting so we can focus on our genius. Isn’t that synergizing?

We have NO problem letting the photographers and web designers do stuff for us that would take us MANY more hours to do because we’re not proficient at it. Isn’t that synergizing?

Then WHY do we have such a big problem in our romantic relationships allowing a healthy masculine man to ground us, contain us and take care of us so that we can be the conduit for divine feminine ecstatic love that we came here to be as a feminine being? soul

Women say things like, grounding through another person is extremely unhealthy.

They say, my spirit is so strong and I depend on myself. A man would just be a bonus, if he can keep up.

They say, with or without (men), life goes on.

They say each of us is strong enough individually and need nothing outside of ourselves for our happiness safety and security.

They say, Who rules the world – girls! – that one entirely misses the point, but OK.

But I don’t think when women are in that place they are fully able to see what they’re saying NO to.

I am reading posts from many female leaders that say that once they aligned with their human design, suddenly life and business became almost effortless.

Well, it’s the same with romantic relationships.

Once you align with your CORE polarity, igniting love and passion that lasts becomes almost effortless, too – as long as you select a healthy masculine man.

Try it! And if you’re not sure what your CORE polarity is, just send me a DM – I help you nail that down in my 90 day 1-1 intensive.

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